33. TOM LUCY | on Vulnerability in life & on stage, the 10,000-hour rule, & Kevin Hart’s party
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“When I started doing stand-up, there were loads of people who were naturally funnier than I was and better…they had that thing where they were naturally hilarious. but, they’ve gone nowhere, because they didn’t care about it enough and they weren’t working hard enough. I would rather be on stage than do anything else, genuinely.”
HERE's the known.
Tom Lucy is the kind of guy one finds impossible to dislike. He’s kind, charming, FUNNY, engaging, and has two first names. He has a solid group of friends, a loving family, and has a good head on his shoulders. He’s career-oriented. A thinker. Driven. He’s 23.
The first time we met, we began our conversation by examining our mutual, ten year separated, existential crises. Our second encounter was at a birthday dinner where I watched him concoct a last-minute birthday speech, which was perfectly (and comedically) executed. The third time we sat across one another and I badgered the poor guy for an hour on comedy and the inner-workings of his field, which led us to discuss the potential of sitting down to record the very podcast you’re about to hear. He said yes. I followed up…and, here we are.
We spoke of all the things I like best: Vulnerability, Work Ethic, Family Dynamics, Relationship’s pitfalls and joys, and Wake Up calls. For 23, the dude has a lot to share without an ounce of judgement or righteousness. I’ll let you decide for yourself. Oh, and don’t bother calling him Tom. It’s Tom Lucy.
“The version of who you are on stage is a very two-dimensional character: this is 15% of my personality that I’m making you think is 100% of my entire personality.
When you meet someone, there’s a bit of that “ohhh the reason you like me is because you saw that stage version of me, and when you realize that that’s not actually me, you’re not going to like me.
so you feel like you have to be that version of yourself on stage the whole time [in real life].”
“WHAT I’M STARTING TO REALISE IS HOW IMPORTANT IT IS TO HAVE A REALLY STABLE PERSONAL LIFE, BECAUSE I THINK IT HAS A POSITIVE IMPACT ON YOUR PROFESSIONAL LIFE.”
“A LOT OF MY MALE FRIENDS, WE’RE ALL A LOT BETTER AT BEING HONEST WITH EACH OTHER. IF ANY OF MY MATES HAVE ISSUES THEY DO TALK ABOUT IT. I DO THINK THINGS ARE CHANGING.
PARTICULARLY WHEN I LOOK AT MY DAD, WHO IS NOT LIKE THAT AT ALL. HE’S A GREAT GUY, BUT HE’S NOT PARTICULARLY EMOTIONAL…BUT THAT’S BECAUSE OF HOW HE WAS RAISED. WHEN I LOOK AT HIS DAD, I KIND OF UNDERSTAND WHY HE’S NOT EMOTIONAL. WHENEVER MY DAD SEES HIS DAD, THEY DON’T HUG THEY JUST SHAKE HANDS AS IF THEY’RE MEETING FOR THE FIRST TIME. I FEEL LIKE MASCULINITY IS CHANGING A LOT, ISN’T IT?”
“A lot of people assume that comedians are very confident people, but my experience is that a lot of them are actually very shy or insecure, or have some sort of need to get validation from people.”
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