My clients
will tell you:
it’s always
the right time.
My client is everyone. The postpartum Mom. The professional athlete. The successful business man looking for more, or to find his passion. The college student trying to figure out their path in life. The struggling artist deciding between $ (stability) and passion (art). The kid of divorced parents. The young woman looking to break her pattern in relationships. The high profile (x) whose name carries a burden with no one to confide in. The divorcee.
People.
I say this up front: I am not a certified coach. My work is based on ten years of experience as an interviewer in the fields of production + broadcasting, based on my ability to quickly decipher how to ask the right questions in order to open up a complete stranger within the first seconds of meeting.
These skills led to my organic segue-way into the work of ‘life-coaching’ beginning in September 2017, where I launched the ‘In The Unknown’ Workshop providing 60 two-hour workshops for over 400 clients in the span of a year in Detroit, LA, NYC, Toronto, Dallas and Tel Aviv. With this experience, I developed my one-on-one coaching programs. The first is based more rigidly in the traditional ‘life-coaching’ standards - determining a problem, setting goals + coaching into a solution. The second is more loose, fluid and is steeped in intuition, by cultivating a space for the development of emotional intelligence.
I work via Zoom. If you are interested in working with me, please send me an email to commence work immediately or to book a free 15-minute consultation: alyonka@alyonkalarionov.com.
Mindfulness
I work via Zoom, with the option of 60 or 90 minute sessions. Our first session is an opportunity for you to safely share about your story and why it brought you to our present conversation. I will gently guide you through to a space of reassurance & clarity after which we will work together to craft the ideal healing journey for you. Each session is unique, based on the needs of the client. Each journey takes a shape of its own. I am readily available via phone or email. I provide homework assignments & accountability check-ins. Meditation and Mindfulness is a deep part of the work that I do.
The lives of my clients change profoundly, opening new perspectives, and an awareness to a fuller life that didn’t exist before. This is due to my commitment to you. This is work, even though we do have a laugh amongst the difficulties & tears. My ask? Your commitment to you. Only when you are sick and tired of being sick and tired, can we truly change lives.
- confidence building
- expansive & grounded awereness
- problem solving
- respond v react
- meditation practices
- tools for stress & anxiety relief
- locating & working through root cause(s)
- reclaiming your You
- navigating life's unknowns
- trauma healing
- becoming the architect of your life
- & much more
“Alyonka is human enough to dare to just accept us. As we come. Where we are. What we do. The identities we own. Our stories. Whether in one-on-one or in workshop with her she doesn’t ask that you mask yourself to appease limitations + barriers. She instead asks that you exist fully. Coexisting with Alyonka is to coexist in a society free of role play, and caricature. She seeks to see you — the real you. Attending a session with her will show you that she approaches this work from a heart-place that is exclusive to her being which is why any endeavor with her has become a memorable piece of my journey and life story that I often think back to for guidance. I recommend anyone working on development in their own life to check her out — she’s that good.”
“Alyonka is one of a kind. Her knowledge and experience gained while working to help herself now transcends to helping others. In real time, she has a wild ability to articulate feelings. This leads to asking the right questions, and often the one most needed question in the moment. Better questions lead to better answers. Whatever stage in life, we all benefit from exploring and understanding ourselves to a higher degree. Highly recommend leaning on Alyonka’s expertise throughout your personal journey. You’ll appreciate the support.”
“The pandemic just started, I was in the deepest of depressions, I was at rock bottom. The real rock bottom. Not being on this earth felt like “not the worst option”. My life was successful only in materialistic things. I was lost, alone, isolated, tired, unmotivated, you name it... that was me. I came across (somehow I cannot recall) Alyonka’s website. On the surface, the big captions, titles, and pictures made me think this could be a therapist consultation like all the others that have failed before this. I was going to be told some robotic message week in and week out. Except, this time was different. This time, I had nothing to lose. When you’re already lost, the only thing that can happen is you can be found. I took the 3 minutes to click the “email me” link on her website, not knowing if it would actually ever reach her. I’ve clicked links a million times in my life.....this was by far the most life changing. Not only did Alyonka respond but during our first session she broke my wall down almost immediately with her humor and candor. She did not judge me. She did not act like a robot. She was a real person, giving real life advice, unconditionally. She was patient and made me feel as if I was the only person that mattered in the world. This person who lives across the world from me, cared more for me than anyone in my life. She was responsive to me outside of our 2x a week sessions. She gave me the real truth whether I liked it or not. She did not let me off the hook. We are 9 months in and I trust her implicitly. If you need to turn your life around, if you need confidence, if you need unbiased advice, you need Alyonka.”
“Being within Alyonka’s circle feels a bit like I imagine Dante felt when he found the admirable Virgil to help him descend the depths. Trust is implicit; there is a true sense of security, even while the self-deprecating thoughts linger as they are brought into the forefront of conversation. She is not a magician and does not dispel the doubts and fears many of us share. Rather, she provides an actionable kind of hope, resonant meditation, and thoughtful motivation for making more of our time, efforts, and lives. Bring your brave willpower and the fractured parts of you will coalesce or dissolve as they should. She is bold, candid, and perspicacious, and I am grateful to count her among those in my corner.”
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Join for a guided two-hour workshop where you are able to face fears of The Unknown by intentionally + safely stepping into its discomfort. Through the power of moderated conversation, mindfulness attitudes and group connection, you will sit with and talk through the challenges of life, collectively finding ways to acquire daily practices & tools, allowing you to step into living a more conscious, mindful and abundant life.
Part 1: Setting our Intention. Alyonka begins the workshop with a thought-provoking introduction by sharing her story, the recent unknowns in her life, and her intention for the group. She’ll then set the confines of the space providing boundaries for a safe discussion. There are rules here: advice, interruption, and lecturing will not be tolerated. Mindfulness is our standard. Afterwards, participants will introduce themselves and set a personal intention for the workshop.
Part 2: Sharing our Story + Finding Belonging. Based on the intentions set, Alyonka opens up The Unknown by asking a question of the group to collectively answer. Participants will take turns sharing and listening, being gently moderated by Alyonka’s guidance. By practicing actively staying in The Unknown, we become better equipped at creating awareness around our perceived fears, felt-emotions & self-created thoughts & beliefs. By flexing our muscles of mindfulness in a group setting, we are provided the opportunity to be seen and heard, activating a sense of belonging and community. Participants are able to speak their truth, actively listen, craft storytelling boundaries, and ask curious questions. By engaging in this flow respectfully and by cultivating the trust in the group, we will then collectively enter a realm of wider awareness, called The Known. [The group may be asked to participate in a guided mindfulness meditation.]
Part 3: The Known is our goal. This is the space where we feel confident in who we are: perfectly imperfect, lovable, seen, heard. With our new sense of awareness there is a desire to mindfully engage with the world around us, and the world within us. We have a new found respect and admiration for those in our group. There is a sense of connectivity, community and belonging. The power of vulnerability makes us stronger. The workshop closes with the beloved and lighthearted “Bowl of Trust”, in which participants’ anonymous questions are collectively discussed and answered.
The Known is a free private telegram group, created by Alyonka for everyone who’s participated in the Unknown. It’s a safe space for participants to continue a conversation, keep in touch, and create accountability around the desired changes they’d like to create in their lives. The group acts as a source of motivation and inspiration on days when you need it most. Alyonka provides thoughtful observations, mini meditations, daily reminders, journal prompts, reading suggestions, group questions & much more. The Known also acts as wonderful place to meet participants who’ve attended previous workshops. It’s “networking” without the sleazy connotation: ie; a community where people can connect in a myriad of ways.
"Discover more about yourself, through interaction with others telling their stories."
“Can't wait to have more of these group meetings. They are useful and helpful, It made me discover a new powerful dimension of discovering oneself and not to feel lonely. The feeling of loneliness is eating up.”
“An opportunity to connect with others and build community, while learning about yourself through a shared experience of vulnerability.”
“Be willing to surrender in a good way to something that is largely unknown in its structure, topics, depth, and weight. Always be empathetic and compassionate.”
“A feelings adventure with a warm and welcoming group led by a very capable and helpful mind.”
"Spontaneous group discussion/therapy with strangers."
“An opportunity to connect with others and build community, while learning about yourself through a shared experience of vulnerability.”
““I attended one of Alyonka’s workshops as part of the reporting process for a profile I was doing on her for The Athletic. Before I arrived, she broached the idea of me attending as an active participant, rather than just a passive observer and I have to admit, I was reluctant for a few reasons. I wasn’t sure if this would shroud my objectivity as a journalist; additionally, this was something FAR outside my comfort zone. But what’s great about Alyonka is how adept she is at coaxing others out of that comfort one while simultaneously setting them at ease. What I both witnessed and experienced was that Alyonka has a rare, disarming quality and a keen ability to connect to others with compassion, respect, empathy and kindness. She listens, without judgment, and has a knack for prompting introspection and awareness. I met a bunch of awesome women that night, many of whom I keep in touch with still. I’m so happy that I got to know Alyonka through my work and even more grateful that I can now call her a friend as well.””
““Attending Alyonka’s workshop is surprising, enlightening, and meaningful. She is naturally curious and immensely intuitive, and her moderating skills lead to a beautifully open and respectful exchange by all in the room. I didn’t know what to expect, but I showed up, and in the showing up, I experienced a profound reminder of things I had forgotten or had shoved aside, and that has helped me through a difficult personal time.””
““the ripples of the good that came out of that Unknown alone are impossible to quantify. who knows what else those other guys learned and have taken into their lives and relationships. i was just telling my coworker this morning about your group, and how life is so interesting, you never know where it will take you if you just show up, say yes, and take your seat at the circle.””
““Participating in The Unknown Workshop allowed me to release a fear that I had not even realized fully how much I had been grasping onto. Alyonka creates and holds a space that allows for complete strangers to feel comfortable being vulnerable and sharing openly about deeply personal emotions and wounds. I felt grateful for the experience, to be witnessed and to witness others release these emotional weights in a way that felt supportive and liberating. Thank you Alyonka :).””
“I was going through a lot of personal and life changes when I attended workshop, I had gotten out of a tough relationship that past fall which also led me to realize how truly unhappy I was living in NYC and with work/life in general. I was still grappling with these realizations and wasn’t sure what to make of it all. I was trying my hardest to stay positive and do more things in order to make a positive changes in my life, which is how I found myself attending the workshop. It was really eye opening and quite frankly nice to sit down with multiple woman with whom I really didn’t know much about and talk through challenges we were all facing in that moment of time. Truly, it was a great break from the daily negative grind I found myself in. (NYC can be pretty angry and tough over winter months). The atmosphere was calm, warm and inviting which definitely helped in keep the conversation flowing - the time went by pretty quick.”
““I have had the pleasure of attending three of Alyonka’s THE UNKNOWN WORKSHOP. I was always the oldest in the room and in many instances by over 2x; however, I never felt like I did not belong in the group. One of Alyonka’s greatest gifts is in assembling a unique cadre of interesting people. She has a calm way of putting the room at ease and encouraging people to open up. I brought a close friend to my second workshop and she was able to help him discover things about himself that truly helped him in launching his new life direction. My perspective in these workshops was generally very different given my life experiences and I found myself wanting to help others which has lead to continued dialogue outside of the workshops.””
““1. I am not a great listener. At the surface I can listen, however my ego often times prevents me from truly empathizing with an individual because my mind naturally wants to debate and prove my point, that I am right or that a person is being over-sensitive (years of many male influences). A very bad habit that I am continually trying to let go of.
2. Considering your story has made me confront the fact that I have got into many bad habits, emotionally and physically, which have stuck with me for so long now. Some are due to environment, others due to poor choices. So not being a hypocrite and actually being completely honest with one’s own issues has been tough, albeit a good thing learned.””
““Thanks for hosting such an interesting evening. I walked in with little to no expectations and walked out feeling full, connected and with a renewed belief that all would be ok, even if it was just for the rest of the evening. Especially in today’s world, we — society at large — need more and more an excuse or permission to do, ask and feel things. Your Unknown sessions give people the “excuse” they need to show up, be vulnerable, and have deep conversations — three things we need more of in this world, but seem to be harder and harder to find and consequently do. If nothing else this is why these meetings should and I hope will continue. What you are doing not only helps individuals but I think is helping society as a whole retain or remember some of its humanity.””
““I had such a fulfilling experience attending in the unknown. Not only did Alyonka create a safe space for people to share but her energy is judgment free and incredibly healing, she has been blessed with a gift to allow people to let their guards down and open themselves up to healing and bettering themselves. Whether you want to attended for personal or professional reasons, that doesn’t matter because regardless you will leave a better person. Alyonka helped me realize that my power resides when I allow myself to be open and vulnerable. As someone who runs a business it’s hard to always find balance between self fulfillment and work fulfillment, the tools I learned at the Women’s Circle will allow me to move forward as the best and truest version of myself.””
“I approached The Unknown with a very small idea of what to expect and the thought that I am a very open person who wears my feelings on the outside. Turns out I was wrong! By the end of the workshop, I realized that I am not as open as I thought and still have a bit of trouble communicating more serious topics to others. While I’m completely comfortable discussing sex, it turns out I wasn’t as open to deeper questions such as “What is one compliment you receive that you have a hard time believing?” Looking inward and truly giving thought to my feelings was new and quite tough for me. As I watched someone close to me open up, I realized that I’ve still got a wall up that I’ve got to work on letting down. On another hand, my relationship with the girlfriend who joined with me has gotten deeper as we now have conversations about feelings and thoughts that I previously wouldn’t have let out. Baby steps toward knocking that wall down & I’m so glad we went into The Unknown together (which I know is not typical for the workshops, oops :) ). My only negative is it wasn’t long enough! As the group began sharing their feelings and experiences, it made me want to learn more about them and how I can learn from them. I feel learning more about others in turn helps you digest how your experiences have shaped you and how you can continue to grow.”